You may think that by unbuttoning your blouse one notch, putting on red lipstick and giving your husband a come-hither look, you're initiating sex,because you've signaled your interest. I can almost guarantee he'll say he initiated it, because he's the one who slid over, slipped his hand under your shirt and kissed your supple red lips. He's the one that caressed you gently and slowly, kissing from head to toe. When dudes say they wish their woman would initiate more, they really mean they wish their women were more aggressive, more obvious, and more direct. Men liked to be attacked too! Men like to be awaken with their ladies beautiful eyes staring up at them. Her quietly saying good morning as she attends to his "rising interest." Men want to feel wanted too. Even if they know already know it. Sayin it and showing it is 2 different things. Show him that you want him at any given moment and he'll always be looking forward to the next time. You've always had his attention. Now you have that and more.
All men aren't oblivious to the clues and hints, but a more direct approach alleviates the chance of him having bad timing.
Women say they want more spontaneity, but they want it from the man. He wants more from them. To be spontaneous is a form of surrendering, of saying that nothing matters at this moment but the two of you. Spontaneity tells your man you think he's worth putting everything aside for. As one nostalgic husband said, "When we were first hooked up, the spontaneous 'nooner' would make me smile for days, and the unplanned encounter with my wife is still the best kind of sex."
Yet too often we block the urge. We feel interest stirring, and instead of letting it loose, we step in with the usual controls kids, work, laundry, sleep --and postpone that moment of arousal until a more convenient time. Yea, Convenient! Did you ever imagine you'd make convenience a condition for sex? Don't you miss the excitement of inconvenient sex, the just-between-us thrill of sex in unlikely places at unlikely times?
Sex is about so many things -- love, fun, eroticism, connection -- it's silly to let opportunities for intimacy pass by because they're not quite right. The value of sex is sometimes simply in the connection. And what your man will read into your willingness to be spontaneous is that you want him under any conditions good, bad or indifferent. He wants to feel wanted! He wants the Trey Songz, Usher Raymond, Idris Elba experience. Jump on him ladies. You'll forever keep his attention and affection. A good erection is terrible thing to waste.
~ALL100~
*excerpts from http://www.redbookmag.com/_mobile/love-sex/advice/your-man-wants-in-bed-2f *
All men aren't oblivious to the clues and hints, but a more direct approach alleviates the chance of him having bad timing.
Women say they want more spontaneity, but they want it from the man. He wants more from them. To be spontaneous is a form of surrendering, of saying that nothing matters at this moment but the two of you. Spontaneity tells your man you think he's worth putting everything aside for. As one nostalgic husband said, "When we were first hooked up, the spontaneous 'nooner' would make me smile for days, and the unplanned encounter with my wife is still the best kind of sex."
Yet too often we block the urge. We feel interest stirring, and instead of letting it loose, we step in with the usual controls kids, work, laundry, sleep --and postpone that moment of arousal until a more convenient time. Yea, Convenient! Did you ever imagine you'd make convenience a condition for sex? Don't you miss the excitement of inconvenient sex, the just-between-us thrill of sex in unlikely places at unlikely times?
Sex is about so many things -- love, fun, eroticism, connection -- it's silly to let opportunities for intimacy pass by because they're not quite right. The value of sex is sometimes simply in the connection. And what your man will read into your willingness to be spontaneous is that you want him under any conditions good, bad or indifferent. He wants to feel wanted! He wants the Trey Songz, Usher Raymond, Idris Elba experience. Jump on him ladies. You'll forever keep his attention and affection. A good erection is terrible thing to waste.
~ALL100~
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